Some people who go through the corona crisis also face an existential crisis.
Sometimes when you are locked down and you have no choice than to stay home or you feel that if you go out the danger is way too high for you. Then you start to ask yourself some very weird questions. Questions to which you don’t have an answer right now. Maybe you freak out as I did when I came to Germany not speaking a word of German.
Six years ago, I experienced my own kind of quarantine because every time I went out. I did not understand what was happening. Even if I was learning German. At that time, going outside was a stressful situation because I was wondering. What if the police comes and they ask me questions? I won’t even be able to say my name in German. Hello! I’m not going out without someone. I see a parallel between the situation I experienced six years ago and the one we are all living as a society today with the corona crisis. We are going through a drastic change, a paradigm change. Germany and the coronavirus are new territories.
This phase “What am I doing with my life? I’m locked down here. Everything was well before. Now what do I do”. It’s a question you have had for a very long time. It has always been following you but you never gave it time to pop up. You were so busy doing other stuff, working for example or doing things outside of your home keeping yourself busy to not answer this question. “Why am I here and what do I want to do with my life”
I had discussions with various people who have achieved things. They are doers and they’re not the kind of people who sit on their couch and wait. They just go for it but this obligation to pose puts them in a situation where they ask themselves the question what am I doing here. Maybe they had this question a few months ago. They didn’t have to face the corona crisis to realize that what they were doing in their job wasn’t really the thing they wanted to do. At the same time, they were so busy with their jobs that they didn’t really take the time to pose and ask themselves the famous question “what am I doing with my life?”.
I love to speak with people because I love to guide those who want to do something with their competences and skills. They just feel lost. They still know what they want but they just can’t name it. As long as you can’t name something. It’s difficult to go in its direction.
The most important thing when I work with people is to look for an answer to this question because if you have it now. It will follow you until you take the time to answer it. Don’t worry. You don’t need to have the perfect answer.
“I love the idea of a momentary decision”
I love the idea of a momentary decision. For now, you make a decision and you agree with yourself that you may change your mind later. It takes away so much pressure. The belief that “I have to have the solution right now”. “I have to have the right solution forever” and “If I make a wrong decision today. It’s gonna have such a bad impact on my life.” stops you. You are so afraid of making the wrong decision that you don’t make any. You stay in your routine.
What do you really really want to do now?
Do you feel that there is something more to your life?
Do you want to contribute with your skillset another way?
Maybe 20 or 10 years ago, you made the decision to work in finance or marketing. Now, you have become an expert. You achieved what you wanted. Still you feel stuck. You are not looking for a promotion or getting a higher salary. You just want a job where you are happy. You just want to have a job where your skills, your knowledge, your experiences are used for something meaningful.
You don’t want to be just working like hamsters. They just keep running, running, running until they die. No! You want to be part of those who use their brain: Human beings.
What do you really really want to do NOW?
So many people just think it is ok to not be happy with a job or to be okay.NO! IT IS NOT OK. You have one life. Just this one.You should wake up in the morning and be like “yes, I’m gonna do something I love”. You may hate some part of the process but it is something you believe in”. That’s what I want for you!
I want everyone to do something they really love and to bring something that the world really needs. We need more people who enjoy what they do. So that they don’t need to compensate by buying stuff that is useless and hurting the ecosystem, for example. We buy stuff to escape the time we will face the question “What have I done with my life?”
The corona is forcing us to look ourselves in the eyes. I’m so happy that you are locked up because you have to ask yourself those questions. Feel the pain. Feel it because the pain is exactly the kind of energy you need to change. The pain you feel in your body is an energy that is ready to be let out. An energy for something more positive. Identify the things that make you unhappy. Try to see if you can change one little something to feel better and step by step you will change your life.
What do you really really want now?