Based on “Where does motivation comes from?” Blog

Take few minutes to reflect on the following questions.

This time you will explore what scares you and what motivates you to act. You can always come back to this worksheet later and redo the exercises as your fear will change over time.

 

Identify your fear

Let’s identify your fear and transform your interpretation of it.

In your current work situation what kind of fear is motivating you to act? Circle the one that strongly speaks to you.

  • Fear of rejection / of not being accepted
  • Fear of disappointing someone
  • Fear of losing something or someone
  • Fear caused by violence

Take one of the identified fear and describe a situation where you felt it:

(What happened? Who was there?  Where did it happen? When did it happen? How did it happen?)

 

For the same fear, describe the thoughts you had at this time:

(I thought I was…, I thought my boss/colleague was…, I thought the situation was…)

 

For the same fear, describe the feelings you had at this time:

(I felt stressed out, worried, angry…)

For the same fear, describe the physical reaction you had at this time:

(My heartbeat started to race, I could not speak clearly…)

 

For the same fear, describe the alternative thoughts you could have instead:

(It is acceptable to make a mistake as long as I learn from it. It is not as bad as I thought. I can quit my job. I am good enough.)

 

 

Identify your existential motivation

Let us identify your existential motivation and find a way to integrate it in your life.

 

In your current work situation which kind of desire is motivating you to act? Circle the one that strongly speaks to you:

  • I desire to solve a problem
  • I desire to achieve mastery
  • I desire to make the world a better place
  • I desire to improve myself

 

Take your one of the identified desire, describe a situation where you felt it (even if it is not at work):

(What happened? Who was there?  Where did it happen? When did it happen? How did it happen?)

 

For the same desire, describe the thoughts you had at this time:

(I thought I was…, I thought my boss/colleague was…, I thought the situation was…)

 

For the same desire, describe the feelings you had at this time:

(I felt happy, focused, energised…)

 

For the same desire, describe the physical reaction you had at this time:

(My heart was racing, I felt like flying, I felt good)

 

For the same desire, list actions you could take to integrate your existential motivation into your life. Feel free to list even “unbelievable“ actions.

(I could offer to work on a new project, I could start a side project, I could quit my job for a new one, I could go back to school to learn new skills and deepen my knowledge, I could create my own company…)

 

What could stop you from taking those actions?

(I am scared that I will be rejected, that I will disappoint someone, that I will lose something or someone, that I will face violent reaction…)

 

Is it worth it to listen to your fear? What could you do to lessen it?

(I could save money to start my own business, I could ask for feedback from someone else. I could ask help from a lawyer. I am free to leave a situation or a person that is not accepting me)

 

Now that you understand both your fear and motivation. Take action!

Do not hesitate to contact me contact@acgraber.com if you need a hint or advice.