Here are some bosses’ behaviors that made me tick as well as some of my peers:
- Do what I say, not what I do.
This type of boss rely on their verbal power to make you work while they do not walk the talk. They may ask you to work harder while spending their morning reading magazine.
- I listen to you, in fact I do not care…
- I am not micro managing you, I am controlling your job.
- How could you make a mistake like this? oh, I forgot to tell you. Bad for you!
- Barbara, Let Robert take care of the printer… (doesn’t sound sexist to you?)
- Your paycheck / extra hours from last month? I forgot about it.
- This is a very boring task. Do it while I have fun with the interesting ones.
- Do you have a problem? Let’s talk about it…later
Now, I also had the chance to work with wonderful leaders and to hear about good ones. They give us the desire to go for the extra mile, to stay longer after work hours, to be creative. In fact they helped us be engaged in our work! Here is what they do:
- Last time you mentioned X and I decided to help you deal with it.
- You don’t have a problem. We have a problem and we will solve it.
- If you made a mistake it is because I did not explain well.
- Feel free to ask me questions.
- Your goal are X, Y, Z. Now go for it!
How could anyone refuse to work with a leader like this?
I intentionally used two different words to describe the team managers: boss or leader. The boss is usually centered on himself and do not pay attention to others. He may consider you as replaceable meanwhile the leader works with his team to achieve a common goal. He considers each employee as a key player in the success of the team.
A question that many employees have when working with a boss is: “How can I handle this situation?“. Some bosses can change into leaders but it seems difficult for employees to participate to this transformation. Unfortunately, employees faced with toxic bosses may have no other choice than survive with them. We are told to go away from toxic people but with the job market crisis in Europe, or the office politics, it can be just too dangerous to leave your job or talk about it. Here are few ways to deal with a bossy boss:
- Confront your boss.
- Find an interlocutor in the organization.
- Understand his process.
Your boss has his own ways to get what he wants. You can identify andrealize that there are times when you can avoid tensions.
- Acknowledge the toxicity of the boss.
- Use your sense of “humor”.
- Look for institutions that could help you defend yourself.
- Look for another job.
- Talk about it with someone outside the company .
- Learn meditation or practice sport.